Letting Go

Hello everyone! I hope you are all having a great weekend.

August went and came, didn't it? Looks like it's almost time for another quarterly photo dump-- or is it quadrimestral? At least that's what Google says for every four months in a year. I'll see if I want to start calling it that. It doesn't roll off the tongue quite as easy as quarterly.

Anyways, everyone I am in shambles. I am confused and I need to resume appointments with my therapist! For once, I don't have a genuine understanding of why I feel the way I do and I am not sure of how to cure it! I got to get the earliest appointment with my therapist!

This past weekend, I was invited to celebrate one of my friend's birthdays. I was delighted to go, however, someone that I am not in a really good place with was also invited.

I thought long and hard about attending this celebration knowing this person would be there, but I knew better than to let one person ruin a celebratory event.

I was cordial at the celebration and had a great time with my friend, however, seeing this person brought some truths that I need to accept.

1. You do not have to rekindle a dead relationship. Not everyone has to be your friend. Not everyone has to be in your life.

2. Focus on the relationships you do have with the people that do care about you.

3. You need to completely cut off ties with this person. Remove them from your social media, remove their contact information. I have found myself one too many times checking in on people who I shouldn't check in on. The less you see them on your daily feed, the easier it is to move on.

4. It's fine to accept that you have these feelings. At first, I was upset with myself because this was a person and a situation I thought I let go of. (I mean, a majority of my other posts emphasized that!) But it is okay to think about these people and recognize that they hurt you and recognize that your feelings towards them are valid.

5. At the end of the day, you are the most important person. Focus on yourself. I chose to let go of this person for my own peace. That was the most selfish thing I had ever done and I would do it again. You must love yourself first, and in doing that you will learn what's for you and not for you. Set daily affirmations, build confidence, do what makes you feel good to forget about this person. Remove them from your mind.

6. And remember that this all takes time. I thought I was over it and I thought that I had moved on. I realized that I still felt some type of way, but I know that time heals all.

I hope this helps you guys with moving on from these relationships that no longer serve you. Hopefully, I will be able to use some of it as advice, as well as advice from professional help.

Make this week your best,

Kay